Bem querer is a beautiful Portuguese expression that literally translates to "to want well" or "to wish well," but it's used to mean 'fondness' or 'affection'. It describes a deep, gentle liking or love for someone.
In this song, the singer talks about "cultivar esse bem querer" (cultivating this fondness), highlighting a tender, growing affection despite obstacles. It's a more nuanced and poetic way to express love than common words, making it quite memorable.
Apesar de Querer paints the picture of a head-turning encounter that refuses to leave the singer’s thoughts. He replays every tiny detail – the almost-touching eyelashes, the half-open smile – and wonders if nurturing this sudden spark is right or wrong. The feeling is sweet, dizzying and impossible to ignore.
Yet there is a hard truth sitting in the middle of the daydream: the person who stole his attention is already taken. Caught between longing and respect, he decides to keep a “safe distance,” repeating “apesar de querer” (despite wanting) like a mantra. The song becomes a tender lesson in self-restraint: sometimes the kindest way to love is from afar, quietly hoping the other will one day notice that being by your side is “um bom lugar” – a good place to be.